Nigerian actor Uzor Arukwe has addressed the growing criticism surrounding his role in the recently released YouTube film Love in Every Word, a movie that has sparked widespread debate online.
Since its release, the film has captivated audiences, particularly female viewers, with its themes of love, responsibility, and financial commitment in relationships. However, while many have praised the storyline for its emotional depth and relatability, a section of male viewers has voiced concerns over what they perceive as an unrealistic portrayal of men, fueling heated discussions on social media.
At the center of the controversy is Arukwe’s character, depicted as a generous and loving Odogwu—a strong, successful man who goes to great lengths, both emotionally and financially, to support his partner.
Critics argue that this representation is far removed from reality, with some male viewers claiming that such expectations place undue pressure on men in relationships. The film’s depiction of a man who wholeheartedly fights for his woman and willingly spends money on her has been labeled by detractors as an idealized fantasy rather than a reflection of modern relationships.
As the online discourse intensified, the conversation evolved into a broader debate about financial roles in romantic partnerships.
One particularly vocal critic took to X (to challenge Arukwe directly, asserting that his portrayal of Anambra men was misleading.
The user accused the film of presenting Anambra men as “simps,” a slang term used to describe individuals—especially men—who are perceived as overly eager to please their romantic partners, often at the expense of their own interests.
“Anambra men are not simps. Your movie is only liked by ladies who have always had the illusion of an Odogwu that’ll spend his last dime on them,” the user wrote. The comment quickly gained traction, drawing support from those who felt the film perpetuated unrealistic expectations of male financial responsibility in relationships.
In response, Arukwe firmly defended both his character and the movie’s message, dismissing claims that financial generosity equates to weakness. “Taking care of your woman and spending money on her doesn’t make you a simp. It only makes you a responsible man,” he stated.
He further emphasized that love is often expressed through acts of care, and financial provision is one of the many ways to demonstrate commitment in a relationship. “How else do you show love to your partner if you can’t take care of their needs from the abundance of your wealth?” he asked.
His response resonated with many who agreed that providing for a partner should not be seen as a sign of submission but rather as an expression of love and responsibility.
The ongoing debate surrounding Love in Every Word has reignited discussions about financial roles in modern relationships, with opinions split on whether financial provision should be a defining factor in love and masculinity.
While some applaud Arukwe’s stance, seeing it as an affirmation of traditional values, others argue that relationships should not be measured solely by monetary contributions.
The film has, intentionally or not, shed light on evolving gender expectations and the complexities of balancing love, responsibility, and financial independence in today’s world.
